3 important life skills that no one has taught you before

Now, let’s imagine that we all have one of these heart-to-heart conversations that we ideally dreamed of having with our fathers. With all my wisdom, I will talk about the three most important life skills that no one has told you. Especially life skills for teens. Because you have a big life waiting for you

First Important Life Skill: Stop perceiving things personally.

An unfortunate side effect of our consciousness living in our brains is that everything we experience in life involves us in some way. You get angry at someone in traffic. The newsletter you saw last night worries you. This year’s leap of your company saves you more money.

As a result, we have a prejudice to assume that everything that happens to us is really about us. This is something inherent in man.

Just because having one thing does not mean that only one thing makes you feel in a certain way, or just caring about something means that it is about you.

It is difficult to remember this while running in life. This is not just because we are buried in our brains and our own bodies. This also makes us feel good for a short time. So, we continue to do this without noticing.

So, it feels good to think that everything in your life is good for you, because that is good, it makes you feel great. However, there is a price you pay for it. This price is also the opposite of this situation. So, this makes you think that all the bad things in your life are about yourself.

When everything is fine, you feel like a gift from the gods to the earth. When things get worse, you become an arrogant person who is injured and deserves better.

It is this feeling of right that is fixed. This creates a constant sense of injustice and turns you into an emotional vampire. You become an anti-social black hole that consumes the energy and love of those around you.

Okay, maybe a little dramatic. But you understood what I mean.

When people criticize or reject you, it’s likely that this has more to do with them. At least it is more than his interest in you. Other people just don’t think about you too much (after all, they’re too busy trying to believe everything is about it).

Failure to do something does not mean that you have failed as a person. This just means that you are a person who sometimes fails.

Remember that when something tragic happens and you suffer a lot, living is part of choosing to face difficulties, the death tragedy is something that makes life meaning. Pain has no prejudice; it affects us all. Deserving or not deserving is not part of the equation.

Second Important Life Skill: How to be convinced and change your mind?

Most people use their beliefs like a life jacket on a sinking ship when their beliefs are challenged.

The problem is that one’s faith is often the sinking ship itself.

Our beliefs not only give ideas that we are true, but also form the basic components of our identity. And questioning these beliefs essentially means questioning who we are.

So, we prefer to plug our ears with our fingers, we hope that the unfortunate evidence that we are wrong will magically disappear.

Take, for example, someone who does not believe in climate change. Many of these people are not stupid. They understand well what science is saying. They also understand the arguments. The problem is that the reason why these people reject climate change is not just because they think it’s not true. At the same time, rejecting climate change represents who they are as people. However, this commitment to our beliefs is not only valid for science and politics. These beliefs affect the daily life of most people.

You will be very wrong in life. Because your ability to succeed and learn in the long run is directly proportional to your ability to change what you believe in response to your ignorance and mistakes.

Try this: Write down 20 things you could potentially be wrong in your life today. They’re not just material things.

Our goal here is to question some of these deep assumptions about your identity. For example, I am not an attractive person; I’m lazy; I don’t know how to talk to people; I will never be happy because I am stuck somewhere in life…

The more emotional these assumptions are, the more important it is to write down and challenge it. This may seem uncomfortable at first. You will have many assumptions that you will not want to question. But think of it this way: if you have never seen the other side before, if you never challenge them, how safe can you be within the limits of your own beliefs? What we want to improve is the ability to see the other side.

Third Important Life Skill: How can you act without knowing the result?

In most of your life, almost everything has a clear consequence. You’re writing your term paper at school because that’s what your teacher is telling you to do. At home, you clean your room because your parents rewarded you for it. You’re doing what your boss wants when you’re at work because he gives you money for that.

There is no uncertainty. Just like you’re acting.

However, real life does not work with this logic. When you decide to change careers, there is no one who tells you which career is right for you. When you decide to be with someone, no one says that this relationship will make you happy. There is no way to know if what you’re doing is right when you decide to start a business or move to a new country or eat pancakes instead of pancakes for breakfast.

And so, we avoid it. We avoid making these decisions. We avoid acting unknowingly. And because we can’t act with what we don’t know, our lives remain incredibly repetitive and over-secure lives.

I get a lot of emails from people asking them how to find the purpose of their life. Or they want to know if they’re in the right relationship, and if they’re making the right change. And I don’t answer these people because I have no idea. Because no one can decide what’s right for your life.

There is a great scene in The Dark Knight where Joker shares the philosophy of his life:

“I just do things.”

The truth is: sometimes we look for a lot of reasons to achieve difficult things. But it is wrong to try to achieve that thing for reasons. Search for a reason, do as you can! Do it because they exist. As they asked George Mallory why he wanted to climb Everest, he said: “Because it’s there.”

Add some chaos to your life. A certain amount of chaos is healthy. It evokes growth, change, passion and excitement.

This chaos will train you to make uncertain life decisions better. It will train you to start something without knowing which hell you are going.

While this will cause thousands of minor mistakes, it will likely result in the greatest success of your life.

You can start small. Email someone. Buy an online training. Call a friend or family member and say, “Show me something new you think is amazing.”

But of course, there is a fine trap here.

Many of you will read the following after reading this article: I have learned that I must start doing something spontaneously in order to make these big decisions in my life despite uncertainty. So, let’s see, what can I do to myself today and how can I plan these things?

You lose.

You lost before you started, you have already failed.

But that’s not the point anyway…

There is no progress in this business. There is no such thing as going forward. Stop doing everything you do to reach the goal.

Or in other words be good at losing time in unexpected ways.

Source: ceotudent.com